Mastering Hurting & Healing

One of the hardest things to do is heal while you are hurting. Life is forever moving, and there’s no stopping, no breaking, and no resetting. You have to keep moving. If not, you will become a hermit or a hibernating bear. You are asleep, but the world keeps moving around you. Then you slide into a state of depression, and you look up, and it's been 5 years. You see, your family has moved on, your friends have moved on, and they’re thriving. You may say, "Dang, that went down a rabbit hole quickly." But it’s the truth. If we allow ourselves to imprison ourselves, we become trapped inside ourselves. Or some of us go the other route. We fill our lives with overworking, joining activities, and constantly staying busy to avoid dealing. which is also not good. That allows emotions to pour into our cup, and then it begins to overflow. Then we begin to spill our emotions on everyone. You know the saying, "Hurt people hurt people." Well, it's kind of true; we may do it unconsciously, but we do it. Then we spazz when someone tries to correct how we are treating them or spilling on them.

Pain, hurt, trauma It’s a lot to deal with, and understanding how to heal and deal is even harder.

The first thing you need to do is be vulnerable with yourself. We quickly critique ourselves, and some of us are very hard on ourselves. So we have to be okay with accepting that things will happen in our lives that are out of our control while still being able to control our emotions and mind through them.

So once you accept, now is the time to seek help. Reach out to a family member, friend, or even someone at your church. Make sure it's someone you know you can trust with your words. That won't use your words against you or make you feel like what you're saying is wrong. My first go-to is always Jesus. I pray first to make sure the next move I make will be the best move. I also suggest seeing a therapist, but pray about it first. Once you begin to talk and share what you've been through, you will be guided on how to move forward. Most importantly, be patient with yourself. It doesn't happen overnight. You'll still have days when you cry at night or the situation is stuck in your mind, and that's ok. Just keep moving forward. Remember that you are a priority and begin to make self-care a priority. Treat yourself to things. Get into activities that you love. Remove unhealthy habits that keep you bound. Last thing: don't put yourself in situations that will place you back where you were.

No, I am not a psychologist or a therapist. But I am a child of God, and this is how God got me through it and continues to get me through it.